Heard everywhere but here (Essay)

…Your father speaking through you—despite, or because of, his own silence—perfectly illustrates the functioning of ideology. The pain and tenderness requisite in attempting to transform that speech is expressed in Jordan’s description of a close-up photograph that their mother took of a hug between them and their father, after they won the contest: “My mom takes the photo almost as if she’s inside the hug, but also outside it.”